Adrienne Rich essay on “compulsory heterosexual and lesbian existence” truly made me take a closer look at what I believed towards assumptions on sexuality. I can see why she would ask the question that she does. It is true that as babies the first bond we ever make is with our mothers who happens to be a women so why not as women be able to better identify ourselves with such.
Rich ideas of ” lesbian continuum” and the question that arises whether lesbianism is truly defined by all the possible interactions among women or is it by erotic choice that this interactions are made. I don’t agree with society idea that the only normal relationship is between a man and a women. I have led relationship with women that are much alike to a relationship with a man. The idea that men see any other type of relationship as deviant is ridiculous. the fact that men have had or have such power over women as Rich clearly states denying women their sexuality, or to force it upon them, command or exploit their labour etc makes me ask who are they (man) to define what a deviant or not relationship is? .